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Check out the Just for Kids pages for an animal analogy and a biographic sketch
Parents - If you haven't already read
the pages on "Developing Character in
Your Children," you might want to go
there first before reading these pages.
Tips for Parents to Encourage Deference
It doesn't come naturally for most children to show the character quality of deference. Too
often a child displays a "me-first" attitude or lacks the sensitivity to be aware of the needs
and tastes of those around him. Here are some suggestions to encourage deference:
Use real life situations to discuss these criteria for deference with your children:
Use real life situations to discuss these criteria for deference with your children:
Get a book on manners and begin to talk about how a deferential attitude will begin to
show in actions called "good manners."
Use conflicts with siblings (or parents) as teaching moments to replay the actions and demonstrate how showing deference to others' tastes can bring a peaceful outcome.
Build the concept of teamwork in your family by first teaching your children the quality of availability through modeling it in your own actions. Learn to set aside your own priorities to help your children with homework or to listen to their problems or to just play a game with them.
Use conflicts with siblings (or parents) as teaching moments to replay the actions and demonstrate how showing deference to others' tastes can bring a peaceful outcome.
Build the concept of teamwork in your family by first teaching your children the quality of availability through modeling it in your own actions. Learn to set aside your own priorities to help your children with homework or to listen to their problems or to just play a game with them.
a. Were you aware of others around you?
b. Did you notice what they preferred?
c. What would be the polite thing to do?
b. Did you notice what they preferred?
c. What would be the polite thing to do?